Ode to In Laws

We recently had issues with Jason's parents. Some of you know the details of the summer trip, but recently Jason had a conversation with his parents about what their problem is. They came up with a whole lot to judge and criticize. Apparently they twist my intentions, misunderstand who I am, who their son is, and read my blog to nitpick. So, to the Maass', here is my rebuttal;


You accused me of lying to you. First of all I don't lie. People who choose not to like me, do so because they can't handle how straight and truthful I am. What does that say about them? 


Second, if I had something to lie about, I wouldn't waste it on you. I have no reason to lie to you, nothing to hide, nothing to cover up. You're assuming. If it's real truth you're after, pull up a chair and get a cup of coffee....


You accused me of being a lazy parent. You have no idea. When was the last time you raised 8 kids?


Proof of your ignorance; you accused me of using Emmie to raise the kids (while I did what, pray tell?), when you didn't even know that she was enrolled in school. You told Jason you see him doing everything, but when he doesn't get home from work until after 8 pm, who do you think does the homework with the 6 school, kids? Who cooks dinner? Runs the errands? Does the shopping? Cleans the house? Supervises baths? Reads stories? Kisses boo-boo's? Tucks the kids in at bedtime? Does the laundry? Dishes? Discipline? Why are you so adamant about not giving me credit for taking care of my family??


As far as the week you visited right after Dakota's surgery, hell no I wasn't entertaining! How vain and thick of you to expect it! I am the one who the brunt of everything fell on when we found out Coda needed help. I took care of all the calls, appt.'s, and research. I am the one who held it together when everyone else (Jay and my mom) were falling apart. I am the one who only cried quietly, alone, in the parking garage because I was the only one handling shit up in that hospital room. Talk about exhausted! I was about as exhausted as you can get; physically, mentally and emotionally. I was dealing with issues both at home and at the hospital. You should have been making sure I rested and took care of my house for me. The last thing I needed was in laws who needed to be entertained. You should have stayed home then. I make no apologies for spending a lot of time alone in my room that week. 


If you recall, during your previous visit, I cooked a fine meal every night, whether you stayed for it or not. 


It seems you also critiqued some of my decisions regarding my children. Even went as far as to mention DFCS. Let me tell you something, anyone who mentions DFCS around my family, has no place around my family. If you were to bring a case against me in court, you'd be boo'd right out of the courtroom. I run circles around both you and Vanessa when it comes to Motherhood. Know your place.


Also, someone who says seeing the kids "isn't worth it", speaks in anger and can't apologize, and seems so determined to see the worst in me... is not a woman of any kind of virtue. 


Now, you said something to the effect of, you read my blogs and are upset about the homosexual stuff and what adultery might be going on around here. Well, if you were closer to us, you might know what does, or does not go on around here, but for now, you'll have to suffice with; it's none of your business. Jason and I have been together for 11 years, worry about your own sex life.  


Ah, lastly, take your bible and eat it. None of us here are Christians. The bible is a book. It is fallible. We have our own beliefs. If everything you think is centered around your beliefs with no room to accept anything or anyone else, you are not a Christian either. If there is a God, He knows my heart. Jason knows my heart. My kids know my heart. And my friends know my heart. You never got to know it. 


Your own biblical interpretations is that you reap what you sow and that you'll bear the fruit of your labors. Well, I have reaped a wonderful, large, healthy, happy, loving family. We have also accomplished more than many people thought we would when we started out. My fruits are plentiful, sweet, and developing well. So who are you to judge?


I can live the rest of my life without seeing any of you again.  It's a shame, but I'm done being the victim of your outrageous accusations and unfair assumptions. You still sit up there in NY and can't find it within yourself to call, straighten things out, and apologize. Pop some meds for that bi polar issue, might help you to think more clearly, and with your heart instead of your paranoid delusions.