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New Years Resolution for Couples
#1. Spend more time together! Yes, groan, sigh, slump. I know we’re all busy, but if you calculate how much time you spend (fill in the blank here; at work, in front of the computer, shopping, etc.) as compared to the time spent with your main squeeze, odds are the comparison turns out pretty pathetic (and not in the main squeezes favor). With all that most of us have to do each day, things get prioritized, and unfortunately our relationships often get pushed to the bottom of the list. Bump it back up to the top! Consider it an investment in your life. You may find that many things fall into place.
Consider: Making a date night. Once a week or once a month. JUST THE TWO OF YOU. Shed any other capes you wear (“Mom”, “Dad”, “Boss”, “Employee”, “Tax Payer”…) and just be the two of you! I’d avoid movies or other scenarios where you can’t connect, or talk. I recommend dinner and a walk. I’d also suggest giving yourselves at least two hours.
#2. Do the little things. This person you have decided to share your life with knows what you look like in the shower, without make-up, and deep in sleep… it’s not too silly to leave them a love note! They may have seen you in labor, cry like a baby, or puke after too many shots of Tequila… it shouldn’t be awkward to reach out and hold their hand! These little things often speak the loudest.
Consider: Sending flowers through a service (much more of a surprise than seeing you walk up with them). Leaving a good Hallmark in their sock drawer to be found. Sending a random “I love you” text mid-day. Hold their hand, rub their back, or some other physical signs of affection whenever you are near them.
And #3. LET GO OF THE SMALL STUFF! It’s so easy to hold onto the hurts and disappointments in life and allow them to ruin our joys without us even realizing we’re allowing it! There is no soul in this world who is exactly like you (we learned this in Sunday school folks), so you can’t expect your better half to think, act, talk, wonder, eat, sleep, clean, cook, or any other activity, just like you. There was something about this person that made you love them. Focus on that! Don’t try to change them, learn to enjoy them for who they are. Their shortcomings may be your strengths and vice versa. Work with that, don’t fight it!
Consider: Quit nagging (don’t deny it, we all do it). If they don’t take out the garbage, you take out the garbage (aw, it won’t kill ya!). If they eat like a slob, offer them a bib. If they’re cranky in the morning (or if YOU are cranky in the morning), politely avoid them, don’t go looking for a fight. Don’t allow yourself to expect what cannot be delivered for this will just bring disappointment and misery. You know how it goes, “Help me to change the things I can change, and ACCEPT the things I cannot”, right? You got it!
New Year's resolutions for couples
by Kelly Mastanduno
Life with your significant other affects every other area of your life, why not make it the best? New Years is a perfect time to choose to do all those little things you sometimes think of, but don’t always act on. There’s no downside to resolving to make your relationship better! If there are issues you and your spouse are facing, then perhaps making some New Years resolutions together can save your marriage. No relationship is ever perfect, but since we chose to be with this person, I say we owe it to them, and to ourselves, to do the very best we can to maintain the good, and improve the… well, you get it.New Years Resolution for Couples
#1. Spend more time together! Yes, groan, sigh, slump. I know we’re all busy, but if you calculate how much time you spend (fill in the blank here; at work, in front of the computer, shopping, etc.) as compared to the time spent with your main squeeze, odds are the comparison turns out pretty pathetic (and not in the main squeezes favor). With all that most of us have to do each day, things get prioritized, and unfortunately our relationships often get pushed to the bottom of the list. Bump it back up to the top! Consider it an investment in your life. You may find that many things fall into place.
Consider: Making a date night. Once a week or once a month. JUST THE TWO OF YOU. Shed any other capes you wear (“Mom”, “Dad”, “Boss”, “Employee”, “Tax Payer”…) and just be the two of you! I’d avoid movies or other scenarios where you can’t connect, or talk. I recommend dinner and a walk. I’d also suggest giving yourselves at least two hours.
#2. Do the little things. This person you have decided to share your life with knows what you look like in the shower, without make-up, and deep in sleep… it’s not too silly to leave them a love note! They may have seen you in labor, cry like a baby, or puke after too many shots of Tequila… it shouldn’t be awkward to reach out and hold their hand! These little things often speak the loudest.
Consider: Sending flowers through a service (much more of a surprise than seeing you walk up with them). Leaving a good Hallmark in their sock drawer to be found. Sending a random “I love you” text mid-day. Hold their hand, rub their back, or some other physical signs of affection whenever you are near them.
And #3. LET GO OF THE SMALL STUFF! It’s so easy to hold onto the hurts and disappointments in life and allow them to ruin our joys without us even realizing we’re allowing it! There is no soul in this world who is exactly like you (we learned this in Sunday school folks), so you can’t expect your better half to think, act, talk, wonder, eat, sleep, clean, cook, or any other activity, just like you. There was something about this person that made you love them. Focus on that! Don’t try to change them, learn to enjoy them for who they are. Their shortcomings may be your strengths and vice versa. Work with that, don’t fight it!
Consider: Quit nagging (don’t deny it, we all do it). If they don’t take out the garbage, you take out the garbage (aw, it won’t kill ya!). If they eat like a slob, offer them a bib. If they’re cranky in the morning (or if YOU are cranky in the morning), politely avoid them, don’t go looking for a fight. Don’t allow yourself to expect what cannot be delivered for this will just bring disappointment and misery. You know how it goes, “Help me to change the things I can change, and ACCEPT the things I cannot”, right? You got it!
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